“The Invisible Force That Holds Women Back”
Inner Patriarch
Did you know that each of us has an Inner Tiger and Inner Tigress within? Carl Jung calls these Archetypes ‘Inner Patriarch’ and ‘Inner Matriarch’.
Hal and Sidra Stone write in depth about the Patriarch and Matriarch in their book “The Shadow King”. These two archetypes, among others, can cause havoc in relationships, especially for women. This inner voice unconsciously influences Women’s sexuality, their power, emotions, and their role within relationships.
Have any of you ever felt the way I did, when I realised that there was an anxious father inside me, the Inner Parent, that constantly worried about me, the Inner Child. He didn’t want me to fall flat on my face or be rejected, get hurt, or abandoned. He is this old-fashioned guy who thinks that I and all women need to be taken care of by a wealthy husband and kept safely wrapped in cottonwool. These are words my late father used to say to me all the time, and when I heard it coming from within me, I thought it was just me regurgitating his words. This was until I studied ‘Voice Dialogue’ and realised that wasn’t the case. This person – father figure is actually part of me. He is controlling my life. Only when the penny dropped and I realised what was happening that I was able to change what was going on around and within me.
A strong inner patriarch, or Inner Parent in a woman can make her ashamed and defensive in relationships. I felt this way constantly. I was always defending myself and justifying what I did or didn’t do. I was a doormat with a big self print ‘wipe your feet here’.
If an animal is kept locked up in a cage for many years, it will become wild. If the door is opened inadvertently, the animal comes out RAGING. Her rage in her life, was a result – of living a life of PLEASING OTHERS. A life where her needs came LAST.
Inner Matriarch
As my aware ego awakens, and I separate from my primary selves, I literally become aware of the fact, that it is they, not I, who have been living my life. Come and share my journey with me and discover a new key to an old block that thousands of years of Patriarchy has instilled deep within each of us.
Primary selves are those that develop to protect us in the world. They are the building blocks of our personality. They make us who we are in the now.
Join me next time, as we discover more inner selves, and if you would like to talk to me about your inner selves just call 0438 503011
olya