Man & Woman – Inner Patriarch vs Inner Matriarch vs Inner Child vs Inner Parent

Have you ever liked someone, but didn’t really know why,  just that a part of them was reaching out to you, and the part in you that needed to feel needed, was eager to help.

In time, that part of you, the eager helper, fell in love with the vulnerable part in him that was reaching out.

Was it your Inner Parent wanting to protect his Inner Child?

How does a relationship like this even lift off? 

What happens when the vulnerable part in him, his Inner Child heals? 

Does this mean the relationship was doomed from the start?

A part of you wanted to stay impersonal for fear of being rejected, (your Inner Child) therefore you would be less connected as you would be protecting your vulnerable self by keeping your distance.

Another part of you wanted to be personal because you liked him, although you didn’t know how he actually felt, you wanted more of a connection, but you feared you would be less protected, in other words – vulnerable, open, exposed.

What about switching between one and the other.  You can be personal one minute, but if you don’t get the response you expect, you may switch to impersonal, where your vulnerability is protected. Pretty crazy type of relationship, that may never even get off the ground, due to the vulnerabilities of both.

Imagine a man not wanting to be smothered, and a woman not wanting to be rejected.  How could these two even get together with such opposing fears?

The woman tries to make contact on numerous occasions, sometimes leaving a great deal of distance between the contacts.  The man may perceive this as smothering, so he does not reply, she then perceives this as rejection.

What is the solution?

You may say, forget him – there are plenty of fish in the sea, so you go fishing. Unfortunately, every time you catch a fish, your focus is on him, not the fish you caught, so the fish swims off, and you’re back to square one.

I have no answers for this one, but if anyone is willing to add their 2cents worth in, I would be more than happy to listen.

This is just one of many scenarios of how inner selves can create havoc in relationships.  There is a vulnerable Inner Child in each of us, although a vulnerable child has no business controlling an adult body and mind.  This is where Voice Dialogue can be very helpful in sorting this type of situation out.

Tags: Dr. John K. Pollard, inner child, inner matriarch, Inner Parent, inner patriarch, Relationships, Switching

Who Is Living Your Life?

What Does This Inner Self Know That We Have Forgotten?

Why Do We Think The Way We Think, Feel The Way We Feel, Act The Way We Act?

Imagine hearing a voice on the other end of the phone from a person you don’t know, have never met, yet, you feel like you have known this person before.  Every cell in your body in resonating with recognition, familiarity, warmth, love, caring, yearning, wanting to be with them again,(not understanding why you feel this way) excited to have found them again, and, at the same time feeling the frustration and deep longing to just get a glimpse of them and maybe, just maybe there will be a familiarity.  You feel like you will go crazy if you don’t find some way, of meeting them.  Only when you look into their eyes, and through their eyes deep into their soul, will you know for sure. 

Are You Crazy? ……. or just delusional …….  he he he

Then you start having this conversation within yourself.  It seems like there may be a party going on in your head, with so many voices getting their two cents worth in.  Your life has just been turned upside down, and you don’t know why, or what to do about it.  

Do you just pass it off as a lonely moment connection with a charismatic voice?  I don’t think so. 

 While all this commotion is going on in your head, the ‘voice’ rings back, and you think – ahh – maybe he felt it also.

“No”  - says an unfamiliar voice in your head.

“Yes” – says another unfamiliar voice in your head.

Then the ‘voice’ calls back again, and you say to yourself,  ”well something is happening here”, and then the ‘voice’ calls again.

Right – you  think to yourself. “I need to meet this voice, don’t know how, I just know that I do.”

So you find a ridiculous reason/excuse to meet.  ”Don’t – he will think you are crazy” says one inner self.  ”Oh go for it” says another self, “what have you got to lose”.

You Meet …………….. You Now Know …………….. The Feeling Is Stronger Than Ever ………..

Your heart goes out to this soul, you feel the pain and loss, many losses, and you just want to bundle him up, hold him, and tell him that everything is going to be okay, although he doesn’t remember you, or does he?  

Does He Recognize You?

Yes – I think so.  No – I don’t know.

So you spend the next almost five years thinking about him, dreaming about him, sending him healing, love, energy, messages, without getting anything in return.  The sadness overwhelms you, when you come to the realization that he does not remember, (as tears flow down your cheeks) and may not remember in this life time.  You may have to wait, to be together, maybe in the next life. (if you believe in many lives) Then it occurs to you that there are obviously still lessons to be learnt, by one or both of you.

My Inner Child is reaching out to his Inner Child – yet he does not feel this.

I wish I could forget.  

I wish I never remembered.

I wish he would remember.

p.s. – This is fiction, although it could be true, the mind boggles.

Tags: Future Lives, inner child, Inner Voice, Past Lives, Relationships