Jun 22 2008
‘Relationship Energy’ – Wanting What You Can’t Have.
Wanting What You Can’t Have
A Snow Goose Need Not Bathe To Make Herself White.
“A Snow Goose Need Not Bathe To Make Herself White, Neither Need You Do Anything, But Be Yourself.” L.T.
Ladies – Have you ever felt like you were losing your energy for relationships?
Like the men you meet are draining you, instead of energizing you?
“Your Soulmate will reflect the True You, as Love reflects Love.”
Who is at play here – the Inner Child, Inner Matriarch, Inner Patriarch?
Are we just puppets on a string? Mind boggles ……….
THE MOMENT YOU GIVE UP WHAT YOU WANT, FOR A MAN, SO HE CAN HAVE WHAT HE WANTS,
YOU LOSE. BIG TIME. HUGE…….
Work on yourselves, your dreams, instead of trying to turn a man, who may not be the one, into a relationship.
STOP all that obsessing and see clearly where the relationship is, is not, and where you want it to be.
And by ‘RELATIONSHIP‘ – It can be – after your first phone conversation, coffee, dinner, or even years of waiting for him, because he told you that he needed one year of healing, for every ten years of past relationship time.
Simply ‘not true’ past pain just washes away, when you meet the right one.
Have you ever felt completely besotted within a relationship, or by the prospect of a future relationship, that you couldn’t see a big enough picture of what was really going on?
If you are “crazy for a man” in a way that he is not expressing to YOU – it could be, that you are pushing him away with your actions. The energy has to come FROM the man TO us. If it doesn’t, he experiences it as a PUSH, and may withdraw. Trying to get the love and energy from him that you so truly want, by giving too much, will only drive him away.
…..it is not easy, when you’re thinking about someone you’re attracted to. Wanting it to be a particular way, yet, he’s just not there physically, emotionally or energetically ………. The problem is, WOMEN are natural givers, and many times, they get taken for granted. That is why, the game of “being unavailable sometimes” has ALWAYS been popular.
“Being there for a man” is a great thing – but not always. Just sometimes. There is no point, being in an exclusive relationship, where you are giving all the time, yet not receiving. It is not a real relationship when your are not feeling fulfilled, satisfied and secure.
A woman who takes on an always-there-for-you-sexually, emotionally, energetically, physically, No Matter How You Treat Me or fulfill My Needs quality, and a long-suffering, understanding “his issues” quality – will always be looked at by any man as a Doormat. Disposable woman you dump, when the hot girl who really IS “hard-to-get” shows up.
Write down – how YOU want your relationship to look, now and in the future.
‘If his line is …’
“I want to have a great time with you, and just see where it takes us…” RUN, DON’T WALK
IT MEANS – he doesn’t want a real long term relationship – What He Really Wants Is A -
mother, maid, girl friday, therapist, hooker, nurse, business partner, sister, friend.
We either hold back and don’t say what’s on our minds, and how we feel, or, we pour our feelings all over him, and he runs.
A man wants a woman, He Has To Work For- and once he has her, she is then “There for him.” In a good way for both.
THE BEST WAY TO “BE THERE” FOR A MAN IS TO BE THERE FOR YOURSELF
No man wants a woman who presents herself to him on a silver platter.
Have a life that doesn’t focus on him constantly. Be happy even when he’s not there.
You have to find a way, by spending time and energy doing other things that interest you, that you feel passionate about, and to simply enjoy him when he is there.
“Have confidence in yourself, and don’t get needy around him,”
ALWAYS REMEMBER
If HE is ‘The One For You’ no one can ever take him away from you. NEVER EVER
If He’s ‘Not The One For You’ – nothing you do or say, or don’t do, or don’t say, will ever bring him to you.
If you are meant to be together – you will be – no one can keep you apart.
Nothing you do or say, will keep him away if he is meant to be with you.
There is no barrier, if two souls are meant to be one.
Think of yourselves as special – always – have faith – always
olga